The Leaky cup Quiz - Feed Your Libido

Go through the following scenarios and mark the ones that happened to you in recent weeks.

You don’t get enough sleep and wake up wishing the alarm would just stop. *

You reach for your work email upon waking, to find out how the world needs you — before you even have a moment to pee. *

You start the day with a million things in your head, some of which you’re mulling over while you showering *

You take care of something for your husband and/or kids while shoveling breakfast into your mouth. *

You ignore connection bids like a good-bye kiss because you don’t have time. *

How about these scenarios? Did any of these happen recently?

You say yes to work meetings you know will waste your time and energy in fear of pissing off people. *

You work through lunch, shoveling more food into your mouth, to be efficient. *

In that important meeting, you know you have something to say, but you keep quiet — then beat yourself up with “why didn’t I say something this time?” *

You don’t have time to pee because you’re so busy, so you hold and hold it, just to squeeze in another email to make the boss happy with you. *

You hold in your breath all day, your shoulders are tense, and your body is ready for battle (but you likely don’t notice any of that). *

How about these scenarios? Did any of these happen recently?

You say ‘yes’ to your begging boss or clients or a family member you want to please to take on another last-minute project even though you know that something else will have to give because you have no space. *

You drive home, distracted, while managing a conversation with your mother / sister / best friend because you simply have no other time. *

You walk into your home irritated already. *

You see the mess the kids/dog/husband made in the house and it makes you feel so disrespected and unappreciated. *

You snap at your partner/kids/dog — if only they would do their part to help you out?! *

Which of these scenarios happened recently?

With other things, you grit your teeth and stuff it in, but it comes out mean later. *

You regret being mean and beat yourself up for it, because deep down you know that you’re a caring and loving person that does not do these things. *

You take care of cooking dinner, when you just wish that you had ordered in or that your husband took care of it. *

You make sure that the kitchen is sparkling clean, even though you’re exhausted and your body is screaming for you to stop. *

You finish the work emails after the kids go to bed, feeling the weight of the guilt, responsibilities and exhaustion all at once. *

Check the scenarios that happened to you recently

You patiently listen to your partner’s day, wishing he could just be quiet and give you a hug instead. *

You wish you could cry in your partner’s arms, but you don’t want to be a burden, so you turn away to go to sleep. *

You feel his body against yours as he reaches out in desire, so you turn around and oblige, convincing yourself with the story that “you love to give,” even though your body, your heart and your soul are nowhere ready. *

You bear the discomfort just long enough to feel good about having been there for him and making him happy. *

But it doesn’t make you happy. Instead you feel the pangs of lonely bitterness. But you dare not say anything at all. You tell yourself that you don’t want to hurt his feelings by telling him what’s not working for you. You don’t want to be a burden. *

What about these scenarios? Did any of these happen to you recently?

You fall asleep reminding yourself that you can get by with very little and that you don’t need much at all, even though deep down you know that you’re starving. *

And if this doesn’t play out this way, when the inevitable “It’s been a while” conversation rolls around, you promise to work harder at willing your enthusiasm for sex or your sexual desire to show up. You carry it all on your shoulders. *

And you repeat it all again tomorrow and the next day, because you have stamina for suffering. There is no end to how much pain you can tolerate and how much you’re willing to take on to be loved. You remind yourself that you’re so grateful to have this relationship and you soldier on. *

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Feed your Libido

How leaky is your cup?

Go through the following scenarios and mark the ones that happened to you in recent weeks.

How about these scenarios? Did any of these happen recently?

How about these scenarios? Did any of these happen recently?

Which of these scenarios happened recently?

Check the scenarios that happened to you recently

What about these scenarios? Did any of these happen to you recently?