Having extraordinary and passionate intimacy is not just a fairy tale.
Irene Fehr’s Feed Your Libido online program has the blueprint to make it real.
Feeling disconnected from your desire and heart and engaging in “obligatory sex” might feel “normal” for you. But that’s not the path to living out a fulfilling life or relationship.
Dare to make your pleasure important.
Dare to follow your heart.
The fairy tale is that you’re supposed to be naturally horny and turned on — just because you’re with the partner you love.
And if you count on the nature part, you might be in the mood for sex on that one day of the month. Or, when the stars align for a perfect date night.
The reality is that wanting sex in a long-term relationship hinges on you nourishing your libido by doing things that make you feel good inside your body — and saying goodbye to “obligatory sex.”
And that takes following your heart.
Like asking for sensual touch that makes you relax and melt.
Or creating time with your partner to chat about your day heart to heart and feel connected.
Or receiving a kiss that makes your knees weak.
The nature part is easy — and it takes that extra bit of courage to say “yes” to your own heart.
That’s the nurture part of women’s sexuality that no one teaches: we are born with a libido that needs to be fed and nurtured by following what the heart wants.
Feeding your libido means that
You never have to override your own discomfort — which goes against your integrity and costs your self-esteem, confidence and daily joy — because you learn to ask for what you need to be in pleasure
I’ve coached hundreds of women in couples on their journey into a reawakened intimacy, closeness and sexual passion. This 30+ hour video program is the best of what I use with my coaching clients.
If you’re truly ready for an extraordinary relationship where your sexual fulfillment and engagement has a sacred role, then know that is not just a fairy tale or wishful thinking. I’ve seen hundreds of women go through this transformation to find aliveness and intimacy on the other side.
"Our libido shrinks or expands in proportion to how daring we choose to live our life."
How Feed Your Libido Transformed the Lives of these Women
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I thought that sexuality goes downhill after menopause. And it's been the opposite for me in my experience. That was a wonderful, fun surprise!
Irene is passionate, devoted, skillful, and knowledgable in this vast topic of sex education …
From the moment I signed up for Irene’s course, my body shook with fear. I knew I needed to address this area of my life, for myself and for my partnership … Yet, time and time again … with each week of material, I inevitably left feeling empowered, hopeful, and informed. I am making enacting my desires more of a priority, speaking up more during sex to direct touch towards my pleasure or to stop things when they hurt, having more frequent conversations about sex with friends and partner. I do feel more confident both during lovemaking and around trusting that I know what I need, learning to work with our sex life and trusting that my partner and I can evolve together and not be stuck.
I see myself completely differently. My love for myself (and realization that I matter) has grown tremendously.
I don’t feel numb anymore. I don’t hold back as much. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I feel powerful and magnetic. What I am most proud of is my openness to talk with my husband about things I was afraid to ask for before. My relationship is hotter, more fun, sexier, exciting.
[Today] not only do I voice my desires, I also ACT on them.
I started out as a shy, ashamed and angry girl. I had been taught to push all passion, desire and sexuality aside in pursuit of career success. I have awakened my sexual self … and … built my confidence to exude femininity and use sexual energy in all aspects of my life. Consequently, I am always energised because my energy is feminine and abundant. I love myself and see myself as beautiful, joyful and happy… and this has caused me to become attractive to other people too! Wow! Now, I am confident dating men again.
This course has firmly planted the seeds for my sexual transformation to unfold. I wish I had this class 15 years ago!
[I learned] to shift my view of what sex is into the reality that sex is a beautiful expansive spacious free flowing experience, one that holds a lot of freedom and pleasure … [which] opened me up to what’s possible — and what’s possible is both enlivening and healing. This course has taught me to better understand my body, my sexual interests and needs … in a deep fulfilling way. Everything before has been about the surface of sex … not what truly nourishes us.
With Feed Your Libido, you’ll learn:
How to talk about your needs and desires without shame or guilt with your partner
3 critical things you need to enjoy sex that’s pleasurable for you, at your pace and that honors your body — and makes it fun for your man
How to approach sex when your libido differs from your partner’s
Actual phrases and language to use to ask for what you want in sex
The essential difference between “a biologically-driven” libido and one that’s built on intimacy, sensuality and love
The one critical nutrient you need to feel sexual desire — and 14 practices to help you build it
How to navigate your boundaries in a way that makes your partner appreciate and respect you
What to do when your partner asks for what you want (and you have no idea, or worse you shut down in frustration)
The core difference between needs and desires and how to communicate both
How men and women communicate sexual desire differently
3 powerful partner practices to help you connect sensually and build your arousal that will lead to pleasurable (and passionate) sex
How to get your sexual and pleasure needs met with a partner who is not experienced sexually
What You Will Get
Put your learnings into practice every day with bite-size action challenges for every module.
More than 50 Recordings
Instruction delivered via videos and audios, with accompanying charts, graphs and worksheets that make learning easier.
Feel Safe & at Ease
You’re not broken!
Women’s sexuality is different than men’s — and knowing the difference can save your libido (and your relationship).
- Includes lessons on:
- ^How to release your limiting beliefs and feel empowered knowing that there’s nothing wrong with you
- ^The key elements that will make sex pleasurable for you
- ^Which brakes and accelerators have you experience your body and sex differently
- ^What conditions you need to feel safe in your environment and relationship
- ^The cyclical nature of your body and how to go with it instead of against it
As a result of this module: You will feel a renewed sense of confidence in yourself and have the clarity about the things that will keep you calm, relaxed, and create paths for relief.
Listen to Your Body
You are in control of your body.
Understand how your body experiences pleasure to give it what it deserves.
- In this module, you'll learn:
- ^The 7 stages female sexual arousal and which is the most critical
- ^What are the two special types of female orgasm
- ^How to build sexual arousal and how to eventually fill your cup so you have energy to give yourself to another person in pleasure
- ^How to fully surrender and allow yourself for more intense pleasure and arousal
- ^The 10 ways to create optimal arousal for sex and pleasure with your partner
The Play Zone
Your body is a pleasure machine!
14 guided sensuality and sexuality practices to access your pleasure.
- In this module, you'll learn:
- ^How you can access the pleasure of things and beings through the magic of your hands
- ^How to be present and to give yourself an undivided attention
- ^How your voice is interconnected with your emotions, feelings and arousal
- ^How to give your whole body an appreciation for its beauty and glory
- ^BONUS: Discover the sexual self in you, what she’s like and what is her purpose in your life
As a result of this module: You’ll experience pleasure like never before and have the vocabulary to convey what feels good and what doesn’t to a partner.
Own Your Queen
Commit to getting your needs met and feeding your libido & your relationship.
- In this module, you'll learn:
- ^What is desire and how do you own it
- ^How to listen to your desire and how to trust that knowing
- ^The most powerful ways to explore your desire
- ^How is desire different from needs — and what they are for you
- ^What are the barriers that block you from desiring and receiving — and how to break them to fully embrace the nourishment of receiving
As a result of this module: You will find your confidence to honor yourself and ask for what you need and want.
Experience the Magic of Deep Partnership
A sex life that’s exciting and nourishing for both of you requires you have to convey what you like, need and want.
Get over the shyness of communicating to learn about each other.
- In this module, you'll learn:
- ^How to have your partner onboard with you in the journey of pleasurable sex
- ^What is the fail-proof communication formula that will help you express what you want and make your man want to give it to you
- ^How to discover more about each other’s fears, wants and needs when it comes to sex
- ^What are "Sexual Lingering Orgasmic" (SLO) practices and how they can take your libido through the roof
- ^How to communicate pleasure, desires and your excitement — and what to absolutely avoid during sex
As a result of this module: You’ll engage in open and productive communication with your partner about intimacy, sex and most of all about meeting each other’s needs.
Unlimited personalized email support for first 3 months
Couples Touch Practices
Tips to Overcome the Most Common Sex Gridlocks in a Long-term Relationship
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More Feedback from Clients:
"I have transformed from rigid to soft,
from closed off to open, and from insecure in my relationship to more confident and
connected than ever.”
"I am free to express and embody all the shades of my femininity and sexuality."
8 Signs You Need to Feed Your Libido
You’re too exhausted to have sex
You are so busy that at the end of the day, having sex is a chore that’s too much to deal with. And you feel guilty about it. The answer is not to do more. It’s to learn how to manage your energy, ask for your needs to be met, and learn what your body needs during the day so that you’re not exhausted at the end of it. This program will teach you to feed your sexual energy by prioritizing yourself and getting your partner engaged to support you. If you don’t want to be that woman who never found the time to focus on herself for a change, this program is for you.
You can’t shut your mind off to get into it
Your mind is filled with what needs to be done and what’s not working. No wonder you want to get sex over with, without really caring about whether you enjoy it or not. Sounds like a good strategy to “maintain” the relationship, but in reality, this pushes both of you further apart. It weakens trust and adds stress to your already-overwhelmed self.
This program will teach you to work with your busy mind so that it’s no longer a block to your intimacy. You will have more energy to enjoy yourself on your terms, at the pace that you’re ready for. If you don’t want to be stuck under the tyranny of all of those tiring voices keeping you from getting into it, then this program is for you.
Being a parent squeezed the sexy out of you
It’s time to resuscitate your life force and put on your oxygen mask first. Make the relationship work for you. The program will help you understand your own responsive sexual desire and the environment that you need to create with your partner to feel sexy again. If you’re no longer willing for sex to be about taking care of your partner and you want it to be also about you, you will find the answers here.
You’re the low libido partner who’s always catching up
Your partner wants more frequent sex, and you’re under pressure to meet his libido. You cave in to keep the peace but you know, deep inside, that you’ll end up resenting him. You already resent sex, even when it’s only once in a while.
The program will help you understand your role in feeding your own libido — and give you techniques that will have you feel like you’re enough as you are. You’ll get the vocabulary to become an engaged partner in your relationship, effortlessly, with no drama. If you don’t want to be left behind, find your own sexual spark and learn to meet your partner on your terms in this program.
Your body no longer feels sexy
Your body has changed, and you don’t feel sexy anymore. You’ve accepted this as the new norm — but that’s causing defensiveness and resentment for the both of you.
It sucks to know that your body is not what it used to be. But know this: your body is still capable of experiencing and feeling pleasure, lots of it. You are an erotic being, whatever your age, even if you don’t feel like it. Your partner sees you for who you are and is still hopeful.
This program will guide you along a step-by-step self-discovery process that will empower you to rediscover what works for you now. If you don’t want to settle for feeling powerless within yourself and perpetuate that ever-growing distance towards your partner, then this program is for you.
It used to be different. But now sex is ‘meh’
You’ve been waiting for him to change — you’ve been giving him lots of hints, after all. But he just won’t. So giving up sex seems like a reasonable trade-off for a good relationship.
But make no mistake about it: a relationship in which you have to choose between caring love and satisfying sex will eventually implode.
This program will give you new ways to get your partner to see your needs and meet them. You will find that you no longer need to compromise. You will walk the path to strengthen your relationship and make sex work for you.
If you don’t want to continue to settle for bad sex while waiting for him to change, then this program is for you.
You never initiate sex
The program will teach you how to want and initiate sex for you in a way that makes your partner feel desired. You will have the vocabulary to initiate it in various exciting ways too. If you don’t want to continue to be stuck in this gridlock that further pushes you away from each other, then this program is for you.
You have sex for him
You are such a giver, so much so that at first it made total sense to have sex just to satisfy his needs. You wanted to. But somehow it didn’t satisfy his needs. Worse, he is even more unhappy. Don’t you give enough already?
The thing is that you’re starving and whatever you do from a starving place will misfire and create more distance than connection. This program will show you how to let go of the patterns that have you over-give and learn to fill your cup. If you want to be surprised by what your partner is willing to do for you, then this program is for you.
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33: Learning to Receive
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It looked like a libido problem.
What I really had was a heart problem.
Hi, I’m Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, Sex & Intimacy Coach and Intimacy Warrior.
Before I became a sex coach and a global authority on women’s libido over a decade ago, I had a deep dark secret.
I had lost my libido, didn’t want to have sex with my husband, and led myself to believe that it was my problem to solve alone … all before I turned 30.
Was this to be my destiny for the rest of my life and marriage?
On the outside, it looked like I had a sex problem — hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), inargasmia, painful sex — to which there were no answers or solutions.
Disconnecting from my own body and my husband was all I could muster. Living numb became my norm.
It was not until years after my divorce and a complete breakdown that I connected to my own pleasure and experienced the extent of aliveness and satisfaction by nourishing and feeding my libido.
And it became clear …
The reason for losing my libido and my marriage was not because I was not sexual enough.
I was not courageous enough to follow my heart. I had lost myself — my connection to my desires, my truth, and my voice — in a world that tried to convince me that mediocre sex, but good performance was good enough.
I didn’t follow my heart — and my body protested, shutting down sexual desire and making sex painful.
I fooled myself badly, thinking that giving up myself to please my husband and engage in obligatory sex was the way to have an extraordinary relationship (and to keep it that way).
If this is your story too and you realize this soon enough, you can change this. You can save yourself and your relationship by learning to feed yourself and your libido.
You can dare to choose your heart and make your body come alive.
As a sex and intimacy coach and Intimacy Warrior, I am committed to walking alongside you on your personal journey to help you transform your sexual desire with life-changing information, exercises and tools. Because no woman should ever go through this alone.
Join me and hundreds of women around the world committed to themselves and their relationship.
In service of you sexual pleasure and wellness,
My Promise to You …
For any support questions or for figuring out whether this course is a good match for you, contact
support @ feedyourlibidocourse.com and I will get right back to you.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What if my partner is not on board with changing things?
I am so sorry that your partner is not on board. I wish he were, but consider this: you’d be short-changing yourself if you did not learn about what’s possible for you and your body.
This program will help you build the confidence and the courage — and the vocabulary — to convey what you need to your partner and invite them to support you.
The truth is, your partner is key to creating sex that works for both of you.
Your partner needs to be part of the solution.
And it all starts by you being willing to take the lead — to seek out support and start learning how to take care of yourself.
You get to be the brave one to lead the process. You get to stand up for your needs and your relationship — and seek out the support you need to make it happen.
So how does the FEED YOUR LIBIDO program help you overcome your partner resistance?
It’s by giving you:
- What you need for your libido to thrive
- What you desire in physical pleasure and sex
- How to convey these to your partner
- How to invite him to support you and give him the opportunity to be part of the solution
- How to troubleshoot difficult situations when he does not want to change
This program has the power to shift things for both of you when you take the lead.
What is a "self learning" online sex and intimacy course?
This course presents everything you need to learn about your libido, understand what you need to feed it, learn about your body, and convey this to your partner.
It’s a life-changing course presented conveniently online so you can go at your pace. And you get to do it in the privacy of your home, which is important for many women in relationships. You sit at home or in your office, stand in the bedroom or bathroom, or lay naked across the kitchen table with your smart-phone in hand, while I present the course to you over video.
You will also get personalized email support from me for the first three months of the course. You can ask me anything about how to apply this material to your life.
How do I know this course is for me?
This course is for you if …
- You struggle with shame, feel like you are broken sexually or something is wrong with you and you can’t shake off these feelings for long.
- Your “low libido” is still the source of arguments between you and your partner.
- You are wishing and hoping sexual desire is more natural for you in a consistent way, not just when you go on vacation.
- You are weighed down by the fear of your relationship ending because of “your problem.”
- You feel depleted and exhausted at the end of the day and wonder how can you ever do any more than you’re already doing to change this.
This course is for you, if you’ve tried all of these with no success …
- You’ve bought a book, read it on your own or together and saw some improvement, but two weeks later its arguments again.
- You have a vacation and things look up, but you fall right back into old patterns when it’s your to-do list all the time, and you’re exhausted again with no prospects for change.
- You find so many ideas online on how to make changes, feel a glimmer of hope, then you realize that you have no idea what to do first or how to do them.
And finally this course is for you, if you’re looking for a proven blueprint to help you change your relationship to your own sexuality and feed your libido — so that you can finally desire to have sex.
What if I'm single and not having sex right now. How will this course help me?
The course is about YOU and your relationship with sex and pleasure. However, we’ll be focusing on sex with a partner and the principles that I teach will help you when you enter into a relationship. When I talk about relationships, both single and coupled women are included. You can expect the course to prepare you for your next relationship, and also give you a way of knowing if someone you meet or are dating is ready and able to have the kind of sexual relationship that you desire. Sounds yummy, doesn’t it?
Is this a good course for someone recovering from sexual trauma or abuse?
Does this course replace the need for private therapy or coaching?
This program is not a substitute for any form of medically prescribed or specified services (including psychotherapy, counseling, psychology services, therapy or analysis) or private coaching where each client’s situation can be addressed personally. Taking this program should in no way be considered or construed as psychological counseling or any type of therapy or coaching. If such services are needed, please seek qualified, licensed professionals or a certified coach, depending on your needs.
In no way will this program prescribe or provide health care, medical therapy services; nor does it diagnose, treat or cure any disease, condition or other physical or mental ailment of the human body.
This program is educational in nature, designed to help you understand your libido and reach its expression in a way that fulfills you.